When a breakup occurs, a woman goes through a wide range of emotions, grief, and heartbreak. When this happens, she begins to think of ways to get him back, thinking that the only way to end all of this pain is to win her ex back and get things back on track.
If your relationship has lost traction, or you want to win your ex back, hope is not lost. If you follow the simple tools and tricks to make him long for you again, you can not only get him back, but get him back more committed than ever before. Here’s how.
How to Win Your Ex Back (for Women)
- Make him miss you. When it comes to getting back with a man, making him miss you is the most surefire way to do so. When he misses you, he longs for you again, and is that much quicker to pick up the phone and start things over. But he can’t miss you if you don’t leave him alone, keep begging him for forgiveness or text bomb him hoping he will see the error of his ways. A no-contact period is the first step suggested by all relationship experts to women who want to win their ex back.
- Agree or Apologize. As important as it is to stay out of contact, a little note that lets him know you agree that a break is a good thing won’t hurt. This is exactly the opposite of what he is expecting from you. Wishing him the best at the end in a formal but mysterious way starts triggering those feelings in him as well. He’s expecting you to act psycho to remind him why he broke up in the first place. When you don’t, it sends a message to him that maybe he shouldn’t have let you go after all.
- Stop focusing on what you have lost. Focus instead on what you have to gain. When we are wrapped up in grief, the only outcome we can think of is getting that person back in our life. When we focus on the bigger picture, it’s easier to navigate that grief. This break is a good period, a rebooting time so to speak, and when you both have rebooted, you both will have grown and have so much more to gain when you do come back together.
- Live your life for you again, not for you as a couple. In fact, this may be why he broke up with you in the first place. He felt the pressure that he was the only thing in your life making you happy. As nice as that is, it puts responsibility on him that he may not feel up to. When you create an awesome life for yourself, it sends him the message that the pressure of your happiness is not ALL on his shoulders.
- Get back in the just-met-him mindset. Many women trying to get their ex back make the mistake of starting at the point of the breakup. This is the worst thing to do because this will just remind him of the pain and the breakup reasons. Start fresh, like you are dating him again. Remember to stay mysterious, always look hot, and that it is more important now than ever to impress him into wanting you back in his life.
- Fix what is broken. Sometimes women are lucky enough to get a reason for a breakup. If that is the case, and the reason was something with you or your life, fixing it will send the message to him that you are really serious about keeping him in your life. Sometimes these things can’t be fixed, like distance, or jobs, or even infidelity. What you can do in these situations is show him subtly that you are going on with fabulous things in your life that can be achieved even with barriers like this in place.
- Use the past to your advantage. After you have successfully gone through a no-contact period, you have already made him miss you. The next step then is to remind him with a little tease of the history the two of you have, about how wonderful being with you was. A little note saying you saw something that reminded him of an inside joke, a special memory, or the like, along with a pressure-free “Hope you are well, see ya!” signoff sends the message that you are thinking about him, but aren’t holding him up to anything. This enhances the element of making him miss you, even more than he already does.
Knowing how to win your ex back is easier than women think. Going back to dating someone whom you’ve already dated is easy because you already have history, affection and chemistry to draw on. You know what he likes and what he doesn’t, and why you broke up. Use those elements to make him miss you, as this is the biggest tool you have in the toolbox for getting him back—and more committed than ever.